HOLDING SPACE

What does this mean to you?

To me, it’s another way of saying “being a human”.

I’ve noticed that as I move through the world, people share their hopes, struggles, desires, feelings, etc. with me.

And that sharing would leave me with a choice that I didn’t know I had, to hold space.

I used to think that when someone shared with me they were asking me for help to “solve the problem”. There was only one thing to do, give advice.

I realize now that 99% of the time, people just want to feel heard and seen. They just want someone who will actually listen.

If only listening was that simple. It’s not.

First, listening requires a sort of emptying of self - thoughts, voices, etc.

And then we must know that there are different forms of listening to choose from. We’ve never been trained to do any of them except what is called “neurotic listening” - listening with intent to respond.

In the workshop on Saturday, we will explore more responsible kinds of listening:

1️⃣ Adult Listening

2️⃣ Possibility Listening

3️⃣ Discovery Listening

4️⃣ Listening to the Field

And more responsible kinds of speaking:

1️⃣ Adult Speaking

2️⃣ Possibility Speaking

3️⃣ Dragon Speaking

4️⃣ Discovery Speaking

5️⃣ Speaking from the Unknown

The point is, you can only make a conscious choice if you know you have a choice. 

GREAT SPACE HOLDERS SEE MORE POSSIBILITIES BECAUSE THEY PRACTICE.